Last Monday Adam and I spent over three hours at our agency being interviewed individually, and together. This was a big, and necessary step forward in the process! It was a fairly intense time, as our caseworker asked necessary questions about our lives, personalities, experiences, etc. From what I remember about our interviews with Bethany, this second time around was much more intense. As emotionally exhausted as we were after the interviews, it was good to know that our agency is extremely thorough, and that they are willing to dig deep into the lives of the families they approve. However, it’s certainly not for the faint of heart!
We learned at our interview session that it may be another few months before our fingerprints and clearances are returned. That was discouraging news because we were really hoping to be approved by the end of the summer. It’s still a possibility that we will, and we’re praying hard for that, but not something we’re going to count on.
Ironically, two days later I received a letter in the mail from the State of Connecticut Background Investigative Unit notifying me that my fingerprints were deemed “unacceptable quality.” I would need to have them redone at an office an hour and a half away from where we live. Apparently some of my prints were smudged, and had moisture on them, which prevented them from being checked. Small step back, but I was ready to do whatever it took to make sure this process isn’t held up unnecessarily!
Thus began my mini-adventure around the state of CT.
Side story: For over six months I’ve had a $100 gift card to The Gap burning a hole in my purse. Adam and I have always been on a tight budget, so shopping for clothes usually only happens when it’s an absolute necessity, or we’re given gift cards for our birthdays. This has been a great test of self-discipline for me, as buying new clothes was a regular occurrence during my single years. I wasn’t racking up credit cards or anything, but I also wasn’t putting much thought into where I would spend my disposable income.
My heart has been, in many ways, forced to reanalyze priorities and only spend when it’s a necessity. It’s actually been quite freeing as I’ve found myself caring less about keeping up with the latest styles and instead, learning how to adapt the clothing I do have to create a beautiful outfit. It’s actually very fun!
Now, when I do have money to spend on clothing, I make absolutely sure it’s of good quality, and I could see myself wearing it for many years. I think buying new clothes is ten times more exciting this way anyway! The only downside is that I can be incredibly indecisive about what I buy now, and usually end up leaving stores empty handed because I don’t want to waste my gift card on something I don’t absolutely love. This is why I frequently sit on gift cards for over six months.
What does this have to do with getting my fingerprints redone? Yea, not much actually. Except for the fact that I shamelessly planned my fingerprint trip around a stop at the Gap Outlet where I picked up these beauties with my gift card.
Metallics are the new neutral, right? Aren’t they fun?!
After spending an hour (plus) at the Gap Outlet, I made my way to the Department of Public Safety in Middletown CT for the main event (although that’s debatable). My new sandals are preeetty exciting!
Upon arrival in Middletown, I was quickly directed to the fingerprint office, right past a line of about 50 people. Boy, was I happy to avoid that! When I checked in and paid, I was told that there had been quite a few people in that same day for adoption fingerprints as well. Yay for adoption in CT! That made me so happy to hear. Now if I could only find them all and be their friend, and hear their stories….and not freak them out.
I was immediately brought in and inked up. The man who helped me was incredibly professional and did his absolute best to make sure my prints were clear. He even did them twice, so I had an extra copy in case the first weren’t acceptable again. If only they would move to the electronic system, like in PA, this could have been avoided. But, alas, here in CT the electronic fingerprints are reserved for the criminals. Oh well.
My day trip around CT ended with me hand delivering my fingerprints to the Background Investigative Unit in Meriden. There was no way I was willing to just drop these precious prints in the mail, and hope they arrived safely sometime next week! Also, I didn’t want to waste that much time. Since the BIU was on my way home, it was incredibly convenient to stop by in person. This was probably my favorite part of the day.
I pulled up into a massively intimidating police complex that was lined with old brick buildings. I immediately felt like I had entered a restricted or locked down area. I was honestly waiting for guards to jump out and escort me to the exit. Thankfully a kind officer I stopped on the street assured me I was allowed to be there, and directed me to the appropriate building. Phew!
When I entered the BIU I met Edie, who I had spoken with on the phone two days earlier. She remembered me, and was shocked that I was hand delivering my prints especially because they provided me with a mailing envelope. I don’t mess around when it comes to this adoption! Edie was incredibly sweet, and understood. She assured me that she would process them by the end of the day. Yay!! Thank you Lord, for Edie!!
I’m still not sure how long it will take to receive the final word on our clearances, but I’m thankful that it seems we’re back on track and moving forward. Next Monday, July 8, our caseworker will do a walk-through of my parent’s house, and we’ll have some more conversation with her about the type of child/children we would like to adopt. She has been working so diligently on our homestudy write-up, and we’re very pleased with how quickly things have been progressing.
All signs point to us moving forward. I’ll be doing so in my new glittery sandals!